I LOVE HIM….BUT

How many times have you or your friends said, “I really love him….but..” “But” meaning the relationship is far from perfect. I am talking about serious problems: like I wish he would leave his wife, or I wish he didn’t gamble. Yet, we continue in these relationships. Why?

Some typical emotional reasons might be:

I have been with him for a long time

He promised a future

He said he would change

We are good together

The chemistry is good

Some less typical and often unreasonable reasons might be:

I have wasted the last 5 years of my life

He might find someone else

If I stay he will realize how much he loves me and change

He’s been hurt

He will go back to his ex

I want to punish him and make him miserable

There is a difference between reasonable and unreasonable excuses for remaining in a relationship that you are unhappy with. The reasonable group is living on hope. The unreasonable group is acting more out of pride and ego. No one ever wants to be rejected or replaced.  No one wants to lose, but in the end, both groups need to decide when enough is enough.

NEXT WEEK: WHY DO I ALWAYS MEET THE WRONG GUY?

General by Carol