Why Doesn’t He Love Me?

Why doesn’t he love me?

The easy answer is he just doesn’t, but I have yet to meet the woman who is satisfied by this answer. So let’s examine the specifics of why he doesn’t love you. Over the next couple of weeks, I will be addressing the various reasons as to why he doesn’t love you.

Part One:  We will examine the emotionally unavailable man from the single women’s perspective. Followed by the excuses men make that women are willing to believe, and the excuses women make to believe in the relationship themselves.

Part Two: We will take a look at longer term relationships which have become blocked. More specifically, the reasons why a man is refusing to commit.

Part Three:  Marriage failures.

PART 1:  Is he emotionally available?

He is not emotionally available if he is in another relationship – married, engaged, living with someone, seriously dating someone else for more than 6 months.

Let’s be honest ladies, he can’t pretend to love you if he is pretending to love someone else. This situation is not about why he doesn’t love you as a person, but rather, what is missing in him that he needs so many people to love him!

He is not emotionally available if he recently ended a long term relationship.

Listen, whenever we end a long term relationship, we are understandably hurt. Everyone needs time to sort out their feelings. As people, we want to replace the “love” that we lost. If we do that too quickly, just to have someone in our lives – you know the quick fix –  typically, the relationship will end. There again, it is not about you.  When we make a conscious decision to involve ourselves with someone who has not put the past behind them, we set ourselves up for failure. Who can hope to compete with a past failed relationship?

In summary, you may think that you have met the nicest guy in the world, and he may well be- in the right set of circumstances; but, if he is emotionally unavailable, you are setting yourself up for a roller coaster ride of painful ups and downs.

Eventually this type of relationship will erode your self- esteem causing some of you to do all kinds of crazy things that you would never dream yourself capable of doing.  Be honest, how many of you have blocked your phone and called him- to hear the background noise; or, driven by his house to see who was coming and going?

Next week:  Excuses

General by Carol